I wrote this post on my myspace blog in 2008, I think its pretty good and an idea how I believe people should be treated. When I wrote this it was the start to my path to get where I am today. I think its a good post, so I hope you think so too.
Kindness Matters
I really must be confused....I am not sure, if I am the only one that wonders about this, or maybe I am the only who cares enough about it. Has anyone noticed what people don't seem to emphasize enough about? Well there are a few things that come to mind that I believe are very important, which I try to live by, and people know about but don't apply it to how they act or how they live their lives.
1) Being held accountable for when you are wrong, owning up to your wrong doings.
-This goes with maturity, taking responsibility for your actions, and being a good person. I get so frustrated with people when they can never just say"I was wrong, I should not have done/said that....I'm sorry" What is so hard about that!! I will admit right now I have made mistakes, I own up to each one, I know when I am wrong as we all do! We are all human we do things that are wrong, we hurt others, even if its by mistake, you still effected someone in a hurtful or offensive way, so the most admirable thing to do is own it, and make it right! No one is perfect, we as humans all have faults. I know I will say and do the wrong things, I can promise that, but I will own them. I just think things would get resolved quicker and more effectively if we just take full responsibility and be honest with ourselves, we all know what is right inside, show that you know! Its a good, respectable quality to have!!
2) Being kind and REAL about it.
-Honestly, this task is natural for me, but others.... not so much. They can just treat you badly for no reason, why? Because maybe they are miserable, or just having an off day perhaps.... well the saying is misery likes company, right? Why is it, if we are not feeling so great one day, why not instead keeping it to themselves, and not spread this unpleasant demeanor. I'd rather wear a smile and make the best of each day, and treat people the way I want to be treated, with kindness and respect. Is that so much to ask?? If we all could do this, there would be less stress, tension and hostility everywhere from home to the workplace!
3) Acting as if you are above others, and you treat them as if they are below you.
-People who treat others as if they are not as important as them, or those who abuse their position in authority, such as police officers, bosses, etc. Here is an example of two men, one who did not go to college, has 5 kids, living in a trailer, busting his ass to provide for his family, barely making ends meat, and taking good care of his kids and wife etc. And the other man who has his doctorate in psychology, is making six figures, has a huge house, 7 cars and does everything for his family as well, I would respect them equally! Treat them both with the same respect and kindness. I see those that are poor, those who didn't attend college, people that are not "attractive," obese, mentally/physically disabled, there are to many to name you get the picture, they are looked down upon and disrespected by some people who think so highly of themselves, and are brutally judgmental. What drives these people to mistreat any one that may be "different" or just not up to their standards of what is considered good enough in their eyes. If these people are not effecting you in a negative way, then put a stop to your disrespectful words, judgmental thoughts, and actions! Is it worth it? I think not!! We are all human beings, we all have feelings, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Were not here for others approval, were here to live a good honest life, and be the best we can be, we all go in different directions, make are own paths of what our lives will consist of. Its not how much we make, or who we know, or how many years of schooling that makes us "someone", its our character, it how we live our lives, how we treat others, appreciating all you have and not taking anything for granted. People when they pass away are not remembered for their college degree, how big their houses were, or how beautiful their face and/or body was, what we remember is who the person was, how they effected our lives, and what fond memories they left behind.
Taking responsibility for your actions, kindness, respect and compassion goes along way!! I wanted to express my thoughts on these topics. Because maybe people just are to busy getting caught up in their fast paced lives, and not taking these things into consideration! Its important to live your life in a way that makes you proud and to know you are a genuinely good, kindhearted person!
1) Being held accountable for when you are wrong, owning up to your wrong doings.
-This goes with maturity, taking responsibility for your actions, and being a good person. I get so frustrated with people when they can never just say"I was wrong, I should not have done/said that....I'm sorry" What is so hard about that!! I will admit right now I have made mistakes, I own up to each one, I know when I am wrong as we all do! We are all human we do things that are wrong, we hurt others, even if its by mistake, you still effected someone in a hurtful or offensive way, so the most admirable thing to do is own it, and make it right! No one is perfect, we as humans all have faults. I know I will say and do the wrong things, I can promise that, but I will own them. I just think things would get resolved quicker and more effectively if we just take full responsibility and be honest with ourselves, we all know what is right inside, show that you know! Its a good, respectable quality to have!!
2) Being kind and REAL about it.
-Honestly, this task is natural for me, but others.... not so much. They can just treat you badly for no reason, why? Because maybe they are miserable, or just having an off day perhaps.... well the saying is misery likes company, right? Why is it, if we are not feeling so great one day, why not instead keeping it to themselves, and not spread this unpleasant demeanor. I'd rather wear a smile and make the best of each day, and treat people the way I want to be treated, with kindness and respect. Is that so much to ask?? If we all could do this, there would be less stress, tension and hostility everywhere from home to the workplace!
3) Acting as if you are above others, and you treat them as if they are below you.
-People who treat others as if they are not as important as them, or those who abuse their position in authority, such as police officers, bosses, etc. Here is an example of two men, one who did not go to college, has 5 kids, living in a trailer, busting his ass to provide for his family, barely making ends meat, and taking good care of his kids and wife etc. And the other man who has his doctorate in psychology, is making six figures, has a huge house, 7 cars and does everything for his family as well, I would respect them equally! Treat them both with the same respect and kindness. I see those that are poor, those who didn't attend college, people that are not "attractive," obese, mentally/physically disabled, there are to many to name you get the picture, they are looked down upon and disrespected by some people who think so highly of themselves, and are brutally judgmental. What drives these people to mistreat any one that may be "different" or just not up to their standards of what is considered good enough in their eyes. If these people are not effecting you in a negative way, then put a stop to your disrespectful words, judgmental thoughts, and actions! Is it worth it? I think not!! We are all human beings, we all have feelings, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Were not here for others approval, were here to live a good honest life, and be the best we can be, we all go in different directions, make are own paths of what our lives will consist of. Its not how much we make, or who we know, or how many years of schooling that makes us "someone", its our character, it how we live our lives, how we treat others, appreciating all you have and not taking anything for granted. People when they pass away are not remembered for their college degree, how big their houses were, or how beautiful their face and/or body was, what we remember is who the person was, how they effected our lives, and what fond memories they left behind.
Taking responsibility for your actions, kindness, respect and compassion goes along way!! I wanted to express my thoughts on these topics. Because maybe people just are to busy getting caught up in their fast paced lives, and not taking these things into consideration! Its important to live your life in a way that makes you proud and to know you are a genuinely good, kindhearted person!
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